If Recovery Was Easy, Everyone Would Do It!
If recovery was easy, everyone would do it! Recovery from anything – abuse of alcohol and drugs, trauma, mental illness, parental neglect, intimate partner violence, simply not feeling good enough. Recovery from any of these is not easy.
Recovery takes us to a deep place, an often-lonely place, a place of such truth and vulnerability from which we rise with clarity, honesty, and conviction....
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Setting Boundaries Are Hard!
Setting boundaries is really hard!
And here’s why: we hold expectations and those are really just our attempts at controlling things. No one else is you. No one owes you anything. Your boundaries are yours to own, set, and maintain based on what is most healthy for YOU.
Recovery from anything is possible when you have honesty, boundaries, self-love, and balance.
Compassion Does Not Equate to...
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Anywhere, Anytime Coping Skills
A limit to some commonly used coping skills is that they can’t be used anywhere or at any time. You can’t whip out your journal in a board meeting or even begin to stretch and breathe deeply while giving a presentation.
Here are two anywhere anytime coping skills to add to your tool box. Use these when you are feeling...
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How to create room for BOTH
Both what? What on earth does that mean? Many times individuals, couples, or families will find they are fighting to choose a side. The context can be different every time.
Who is right here?
What is the real truth?
Should I love them or be upset with them?
Why I am I always giving in?
Compromise feels more like they won.
Relationships...
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Boundaries. How often do you hear the phrase “healthy boundaries?” What exactly does this mean? Who determines the boundary? Does the word boundary sound too harsh or safe or scary?
In this week’s support, I thought talking about boundaries would be helpful. They’re always showing up in my practice – who has them, who doesn’t, and what expectations are attached to...
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