We Cannot Control Others Who Show Up in Our Relationship

We have no control over others behavior, even those we love and care for. We can’t make people be nicer to us, kinder to us, care for us, or love us in the way we envision.  What we can do is take care of ourselves, be clear with our needs, and then choose what relationships are healthy for us to maintain and what ones we need to let go.

When we learn how to take care of ourselves first, it will make it easier for us to judge whether we are happy with ourselves. This will also help you see whether those around us are treating us the way we deserve. If you feel you are being treated unfairly when we put ourselves first, you can refrain from speaking or remove yourself from the situation entirely.

Going to counseling can help us build confidence and stay focused on what we can control. Go to therapy can help you take control and help us deal with situations like these we cannot control.

Alcohol Equals Permanent Consequences

Alcohol equals temporary fun with permanent consequences! Long-term effects of alcohol include:

• anxiety
• changes in weight
• memory loss and problems concentrating
• difficulty focusing
• family and relationship issues
• insomnia
• difficulty completing tasks.

With all the long-term effects of alcohol, why would you want to drink alcohol.

Most of our social lives revolve around alcohol, which is not healthy but can lead to the risk of addiction.

Choosing to be sober may seem like a hard task, but all you need is to find hobbies and activities that can replace drinking alcohol. Here are things to do without drinking alcohol:

• Movie-night
• Having a cook-out and playing board or yard games
• Playing sports
• Going for a run
• Drinking new nonalcoholic drinks
• Read a book.
• Working Out
• Hanging out with friends.
• Listening to music

When you stop drinking and become sober you will start to see a lot of improvements which include:

• Having more energy.
• Your liver will start to repair itself.
• You will feel happier.
• Your skin may improve.
• You may think more clearly.
• You may have better relationships.
• You may feel more productive.
• Your risk for developing diseases will decrease.

Quitting drinking will be the best think you can do. Do you want to live your best life and become sober? Maybe this will be the reason why.

Sources:

Effects of Alcohol on the Body (healthline.com)

What Happens When You Stop Drinking Alcohol? (verywellmind.com)

Want to feel confident about yourself?

Self-esteem refers to whether you appreciate and value yourself. Having a low self-esteem can affect every aspect of your life. It can impact your relationship, your family, job and physical and emotional health. But you can boost your self-esteem by visiting a therapist!

Cognitive behavioral therapy is effective in the treatment of low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. It helps you recognize the cause and get rid of the negative thoughts and doubts, and anxiety in order to diminish hurtful feeling and enable you to take action.

Ingredients of effective cognitive behavioral therapy for low self-esteem include:

• Replacing self-criticism with self-compassion.
• Developing healthier (more flexible) rules and beliefs.
• It helps recognize the cause of negative beliefs, thoughts, and emotions to modify them into positive beliefs.
• Facing your fears and confronting anxiety provoking situations.

Sources:

Dr Matthew Whalley, Dr Hardeep Kaur. “Low Self-Esteem.” Psychology Tools, 18 May 2022, https://www.psychologytools.com/self-help/low-self-esteem/.

Lancer, Darlene. “Self Esteem Therapy: Counseling for Low Self Esteem.” TherapyTribe, https://www.therapytribe.com/therapy/self-esteem-therapy/.

Have Self-Love in your Life

Self-Love comprises four aspects which include self-worth, self-awareness, self-esteem, self-care, and self-esteem. If one is missing, then you do not entirely have self-love. To have it, we should be aligned with these four aspects.

• Self-Worth is the level of importance you place on yourself. It is emotional outlook that determines how and what you feel about yourself in comparison to other people.
• Self-Awareness is being aware of your thoughts, how they affect your emotions, and how emotions cause you to act. Having self-awareness helps you understand yourself and is a big part of your personal development and is a key part to achieving success.
• Self-Esteem is a positive or negative orientation towards oneself. To boost your self-esteem, do things you enjoy, spend time with people who make you happy, and take care of yourself.
• Self-Care is the practice of taking action in protecting your own well-being and happiness, especially during times of stress. There are many ways can practice self-care, but it typically looks different for each individual. Start a healthy self-care routine that works for you!