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Boundaries.  How often do you hear the phrase “healthy boundaries?” What exactly does this mean? Who determines the boundary? Does the word boundary sound too harsh or safe or scary? In this week’s support, I thought talking about boundaries would be helpful.  They’re always showing up in my practice – who has them, who doesn’t, and what expectations are attached to...

The initial benefits of recovery include: · No more hangovers. · No more withdrawal rollercoaster. · No more anxiety about where to find the next drink or dose. · No more hiding alcohol or drug use. · No more lying to friends, family, and co-workers about alcohol or drug use — if that was happening. The benefits of recovery can...

In addicted families, there are generally three rules: Don’t Speak (about the addiction), Don’t Trust (anyone, even yourself), and Don’t Feel (don’t express feelings, don’t allow yourself to have them, and certainly don’t express any appropriate feelings) Goals of treatment for addicted families include: Talk about what’s going onLearn to trust yourselfKnow what you’re feeling and...

Natural Disasters. Violence. Sexual Abuse. Domestic Violence. Rape. Neglect. Emotional Abuse. Death and Loss. Bullying. Accidents. School Violence. At times it is hard to escape the negativity and heaviness of all that we are exposed to and what some may experience. Traumatic events or experiences are often jarring and unexpected. It can disrupt our world view, our security and safety in...

You know the phrase “Relationships Take Work” but what does that mean specifically for you and your partner? Every relationship has its unique challenges.  Maybe addiction or infidelity are a challenge for you.  Maybe its direct and in the moment communication or managing finances.  Maybe external factors get in the middle, like careers and in-laws and children.   Whatever it is, these...