Protect Yourself from a Narcissist!
What is important to a narcissist is CONTROL. A narcissist needs control over the situation they’re in. Whether that’s in a relationship, in a social scenario, or something else, a narcissist will manipulate the circumstances to maintain control.
Here are ways to handle a narcissist:
- Set Boundaries. Make sure to let the narcissist know what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with. Just because they don’t care about their boundaries, doesn’t mean you don’t care about your own boundaries. SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES!
- Don’t Engage Emotionally. It is easier to protect yourself from a narcissistic rage if you are out of their reach. You just block a narcissist on social media and change your phone number. But unfortunately, it’s not always possible for everyone, such as ex-spouses who are stuck in co-parenting. If you are in a similar situation hold your inner composure. Stay calm and don’t take it personally. Image you are separated by a mental wall from a narcissist and only use dry facts when talking to them. [1]
- Ignore them. Ignore their rudeness, it gives them no satisfaction, and then they won’t be rude to you and move onto someone else.
- Protect yourself. It is your right to protect yourself and your happiness. Don’t feel wrong because you blocked a narcissist out of your life. They hurt you and did not care how you feel in the first place. Remind yourself that!
- Don’t fight them, it will make the situation worse. Don’t fight a narcissist, as there is no win when fighting a narcissist. They enjoy fighting, and their goal is to control you. They won’t let you have an opinion, and they are always right. Fighting a narcissist is a win for them, and a loss for you.
- Remind yourself that you deserve to be treated with respect. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and kindness. Be an example for your kids, friends and family. [2]
How can therapy help you with narcissistic abuse recovery?
- Therapy can help you address acute symptoms (self-care, boundaries, and cognitive dissonance).
- It can help you with a divorce from a spouse, who was/is a narcissist.
- Therapy can help provide you with tool and homework for your recovery.
- It can also help identify narcissistic behaviors that are causing problems in your life.
- It will help you exercise your mind.
- It also can offer guidance to help you heal.
If you are looking for therapist that treats narcissistic abuse recovery, gaslighting, trauma, and PTSD. BCA Therapy has therapist that specialize and treat this. Visit BCA Therapy, to learn more about our therapist and schedule an appointment today. Let’s DO THE WORK and recover. We are here with you every step of the way during your recovery.
Sources:
[1] How To Protect Yourself From A Narcissist | Arcadian Counseling
[2] 8 Tips to Protect Yourself From a Narcissist | Psychology Today
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Untreated Trauma is a Recipe for Relapse
Untreated trauma is a recipe for relapse. We can have all the coping skills, support teams, and relapse prevention plans at our disposal. But if we are getting to the root of it, if we aren’t talking about those incredibly hard to talk about things, relapse is pretty much inevitable. Go as slow as you need but also give yourself the gift of true recovery and do the work.
The most common ways past trauma can lead to relapse is if you attempt to fight your addiction without professional help. Most treatment programs involve a certain degree of cognitive behavioral therapy and counseling that address your personal history and underlying emotions that may prevent recovery. PTSD can be difficult to treat, when left untreated, the mental health condition can cause significant psychological, physical, and social issues. Not only are veterans with PTSD at risk of suffering emotionally, but the condition puts them at an increased risk for severe life-threatening conditions.
Therapy can support anyone who has experiences trauma, no matter how bigger or how small you think it may be. Therapy can help you:
- Develop New Coping Skills
Limit Negative Thoughts- Sleep Better
- Put Feeling into Words
- Decrease Anxiety
- Limit Depression
- Improve Relationships
The effects of trauma do not have to last a lifetime. At BCA Therapy, we are here to help. BCA Therapy is located in Wayne, PA and Yardley, PA. We want to help you treat your untreated trauma.
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